The reason for the divorce is you were in a specific frequency and so you invited a person with whom you couldn’t leave.
Now, go and heal that person (you in the past) who got divorced. Send that person all the Reiki symbols; otherwise you will invite a similar person.
This is the case with the most of the divorces. Second marriages fail faster than first and the third faster than the second or may be worse than the previous marriage.
You could heal the cords between the previous partners too.
You are not the same person throughout your life. Every thought you think, every feeling or emotions you feel and the actions you take will change the frequency of you.
Therefore, you will invite different situations and different people, but similar to the past.
Also, heal the past of the person you are going to marry.
Heal the marriage of persons in their family.
Of course, heal the marriage of your parents as you instinctively follow their approach, may be of a different degree, but the content is the same.
I am getting married in November 2012. It is an arranged marriage and was fixed in Oct 2011.
Since the time the marriage was fixed, I and my fiancé’ faced a lot of obstacles (including obstacles from relatives etc.) and the dates were postponed twice.
I now want to ensure a happy married life. Although it is an arranged marriage, I want to ensure that I give my partner a lot of love, respect and affection.
I am very happy about the marriage. Congratulations and Best of luck for everything in life.
You are the only person who asked me “I want to give my partner a lot of love, respect and affection.”
My special prayers will be there for you and your husband.
As and when any obstacle comes, just say, “I submit this to the feet of Divine” and move ahead.
Don’t have any ill feeling towards anybody.
- Thank the marriage day in advance.
- Thank your parents, his parents and all those who are involved in performing this marriage.
- Thank the marriage hall.
- Thank the cook.
- Thank the attendees.
- Think and thank everyone who is involved in this marriage.
- Chant “SWEET CHESTNUT, WALNUT, HORNBEAM, TOGETHER DIVINE ORDER”
As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.
You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.
So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.
But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.
Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.
He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.
He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.
I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.
He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.
I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).
It is quite surprising when you say you love him.
But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).
If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?
First give (it to him).
Give profusely from the heart.
Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.
You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.
If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.
What should I do to get harmony?
Go all out and give love.
What should I not do to get harmony?
Stop your blaming tendencies.
Stop the feeling that you are hurt.
It is important for you to be in love than to be right.
Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.
Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.
Change your heart first to change his heart.