Blog Archives

Love lost in marriage

AR

It’s been only a few months I’ve been married but now my husband has started neglecting me. I do not feel as close as before. The little affectionate things and feelings have started disappearing from our couple life… please help!!!

Naran

  1. Chant “CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILLOW, BEECH, WALNUT, AQUAMARINE” for 100 times.
  2. Write the above names in a piece of paper and keep it under your pillow.

Explanation

CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILLOW, BEECH and WALNUT are Bach Flower Remedies.

Love lost: CHICORY and GENTIAN

Release blame, and resentment: WILLOW, BEECH and improve rapport: WALNUT

Develop affection: AQUAMARINE (gem remedy)

Advertisements

Fear of Intimacy

Patient

I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:

I release the part that ignores her”.

“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally

I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.

Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?

Naran

The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.

The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.

When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.

Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.

Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”

Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.

Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.

Related Blogs:

Learn to manage your fears: http://wp.me/pwblL-3G

Fear manifests what we do not want: http://wp.me/ptUMq-3O

I am a divorcee, want to marry again

Naran

The reason for the divorce is you were in a specific frequency and so you invited a person with whom you couldn’t leave.

Now, go and heal that person (you in the past) who got divorced. Send that person all the Reiki symbols; otherwise you will invite a similar person.

This is the case with the most of the divorces. Second marriages fail faster than first and the third faster than the second or may be worse than the previous marriage.

You could heal the cords between the previous partners too.

You are not the same person throughout your life. Every thought you think, every feeling or emotions you feel and the actions you take will change the frequency of you.

Therefore, you will invite different situations and different people, but similar to the past.

Also, heal the past of the person you are going to marry.

Heal the marriage of persons in their family.

Of course, heal the marriage of your parents as you instinctively follow their approach, may be of a different degree, but the content is the same.

Raining clouds

ATEWHS

I am in a relationship since last five years. I really like him very much with many ups and downs and many adverse conditions. I have been his constant supporter.

He too loves me but we are not able to bring forward this relationship into marriage as he is stocked in his divorce case. He is married since last eight years and his wife left him as she does not want to get married and was forced by parents.

He is fighting for divorce but now she wants a large amount of money to give divorce. Due to all this things he gets demotivated and he thinks my life is being spoiled. He step backs at times.

I am really tired of this behavior and I feel bad when he steps back.

Please help me with some switch word or mantra so that we both get together and our problems get sorted out.

Naran

Chant “CLOUDS TOGETHER DIVINE NOW”

Explanation

Like clouds that bring rains (happiness), let your life be filled with love and prosperity.

Obstacles for wedding

Priyanka

I am getting married in November 2012. It is an arranged marriage and was fixed in Oct 2011.

Since the time the marriage was fixed, I and my fiancé’ faced a lot of obstacles (including obstacles from relatives etc.) and the dates were postponed twice.

I now want to ensure a happy married life. Although it is an arranged marriage, I want to ensure that I give my partner a lot of love, respect and affection.

Naran

I am very happy about the marriage. Congratulations and Best of luck for everything in life.

You are the only person who asked me “I want to give my partner a lot of love, respect and affection.”

My special prayers will be there for you and your husband.

As and when any obstacle comes, just say, “I submit this to the feet of Divine” and move ahead.

Don’t have any ill feeling towards anybody.

  • Thank the marriage day in advance.
  • Thank your parents, his parents and all those who are involved in performing this marriage.
  • Thank the marriage hall.
  • Thank the cook.
  • Thank the attendees.
  • Think and thank everyone who is involved in this marriage.
  • Chant “SWEET CHESTNUT, WALNUT, HORNBEAM, TOGETHER DIVINE ORDER”

Go away from my life

Savi

As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.

You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.

So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.

But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.

Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.

He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.

He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.

I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.

He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.

I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).

Naran

It is quite surprising when you say you love him.

But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).

If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?

First give (it to him).

Give profusely from the heart.

Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.

You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.

If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.

What should I do to get harmony?

Go all out and give love.

What should I not do to get harmony?

Stop your blaming tendencies.

Stop the feeling that you are hurt.

 It is important for you to be in love than to be right. 

Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.

Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.

Change your heart first to change his heart.

Good Spouse vs. Bad Spouse

Bad Spouse

Kavita

My husband has started defaming me on social networking sites now.Please let me know if I’ll ever be able to win back his lost love for me?

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for him

Download a picture of Emerald and keep it under the pillow.

Chant AGRIMONY CRAB APPLE ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW

Good Spouse

D

At the end of a life of total sacrifice and devotion to her partner in dharma, didn’t mother Sita cry in anguish and say ‘Mother take me into your lap. I can’t take this anymore!!!’, till mother earth parted to gather her pain.

This was in spite of having the most revered person Sri Rama as her husband and it being a world of Truth (Satya Yug)!

If it is ball comes that comes back as pain and suffering (or joy and happiness) what ball did mother Sita throw?

She is referring, “Have a Ball of Love”: http://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/have-a-ball-of-love/ here.

Naran

The wonderful question!

Rama and Sita, yes they loved each other very intensely. Nothing can separate them. They had so much of trust in each other.

Then why did Rama deport Sita just for the sake of one dhobi (washer man) who questioned the chastity of Sita.

Is it because Ram also had the same doubt about Sita in him? No! It is a categorical no.

Rama’s love for Sita was so total and complete – we can also say they both represent the ideal husband wife relationship – that he could not have an iota of doubt at all.

Then why did he deport Sita to her utter dismay?

Rama was the one person who could understand the mass psychology better than anybody else.
Had he ignored the comment of the dhobi, thinking, “I know better? My Sita is beyond all this”, how many false stories would have been concocted, down the history tarnishing the image of Sita!

Because Ram did not want this to happen, he took the harsh decision against his own will.
For Rama, protecting Sita’s character was more important. Can anyone bear if his wife is blamed as characterless?

Think how tormented he would have been, before taking the decision.

Rama had total trust in her. He is happily bearing all the blames people have been inflicting on him, just for the sake of his love for Sita.

Sita’s name is more important for which he sacrificed his name, taking the blame on him. Rama’s action is the vindication of Divine love.

On the day of SRI RAMA NAVAMI (19-4-2013), let us have the blessing of the most Divine couple Sita and Rama SRI RAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM.

Final Note

Look at the plight of the lady who has asked me a question. How much torture she would have gone through, when her own husband writes badly about her, in social websites? 

Husband said he will never come back, but he did

Lalitha: I want to post this miracle for others to read. 

Lalitha

I have been married for 12 years. We had a good life for 10 years and prospered very well with 3 beautiful kids.

16 months back we had been separated. Both the kids are with me. The separation is because of my husband loving another divorced lady. He is very happy without me and kids and enjoys life with her.

He has not divorced me yet. He does not see me at all and says he will never come back. I am in great agony because of this.

Naran

Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”

Lalitha

Will this chanting help for him and the lady free themselves from their entanglement? If so, is there any procedure to chant the words – time of the day, number of times, louder or silent?

Naran

Chant as many times as possible, anytime, anywhere, silently or loudly.

Do the forgiving exercise for the lady involved with your husband. For example, “I Lalitha forgive you…. (name of the person). You please forgive me and release me”.

This forgiveness statement which can be repeated mechanically, as many times as possible.

Lalitha

My husband’s sister just called to say that my husband is continuously trying to hint that he wants to marry his girlfriend. He is trying his best to convince his family members.

I am alone here with my 2 kids. Anything can be done to stop this Adharma (injustice)?

Naran

Whenever fear grips you, say “I release my fear …”

Whenever you feel angry, say “I release my anger. I release my desire to control or change anything or anybody”.

Rest of the time, chant “ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”

Lalitha

I was chanting the switch words and doing the forgiving exercise. I was also listening to your CDs – “WELCOME CHANGE” and “TOGETHER DIVINE”.

Miracle has just occurred.

My husband had never called me for the last 16 months.

He called me today and told me that he wants to get back to us.

Explanation

Together, Divine, Adjust, Change, and Now are switch words.

TOGETHER, DIVINE: is the basic mantra to fix disharmony in any kind of relationships.  This is available in the form of a CD.

ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW:  to adjust to the difficult circumstances and work towards changing it immediately.

FORGIVENESS MANTRA:  Unless you forgive a person, nothing can be achieved.  Please check out the links:  http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2011/08/01/how-and-why-we-need-to-forgive-others/ and http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/forgiveness-cd-instructions-and-benefits/

Disharmony in Family and Marriage

Switch Words

WITH means is to be compatible with the opposite or concerned person.

Chant the switch words, “TOGETHER DIVINE WITH … (Name of the person)” when you want the other person to agree with you.

When you want a harmonious atmosphere chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. If you chant this switch word combination, the atmosphere will change beautifully.

Don’t bother about the names of the persons who need harmony. Just chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH.  Still it works beautifully.

At the subconscious level of the mind there is no ‘you’ and ‘me’. Everything is one. At the subconscious level there is no differentiation, all are one.

The difference is because of the body, and of the mind’s association with the body. That’s why we see the difference between each other

Bach Flower Remedies

Resolving the destructive tendencies – if relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:

  • AGRIMONY for open communication
  • BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
  • WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
  • WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
  • CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
  • HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
  • CHICORY to give and not to force one

Naran’s Products

From the introduction of Inner Smile CD: “We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends. A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs. A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life”.

Rule your Mind

How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life? Ask a simple question to yourself.

What do I want?

What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want.

What behavior of mine or my action will take me move towards this goal?

On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?

Issues in Family

Blogs by Naran S Balakumar

Heal your Family Life: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2011/11/30/heal-your-family-life-through-gem-remedies/

Sometimes a ring is a hindrance in a marriage: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2010/02/16/sometimes-a-ring-is-a-hindrance-in-a-marriage/

When you break the Connection things get better: http://healbyreiki.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/healing-others-by-breaking-our-connection-to-them/

No news about our sister, who was married to a NRI: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/04/29/didn%e2%80%99t-hear-from-my-sister-in-dubai/

I am afraid my husband mayn’t approve of my decision:  http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/02/03/watch-out/

%d bloggers like this: