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Fear of Intimacy

Patient

I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:

I release the part that ignores her”.

“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally

I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.

Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?

Naran

The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.

The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.

When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.

Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.

Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”

Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.

Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.

Related Blogs:

Learn to manage your fears: http://wp.me/pwblL-3G

Fear manifests what we do not want: http://wp.me/ptUMq-3O

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Good Spouse vs. Bad Spouse

Bad Spouse

Kavita

My husband has started defaming me on social networking sites now.Please let me know if I’ll ever be able to win back his lost love for me?

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for him

Download a picture of Emerald and keep it under the pillow.

Chant AGRIMONY CRAB APPLE ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW

Good Spouse

D

At the end of a life of total sacrifice and devotion to her partner in dharma, didn’t mother Sita cry in anguish and say ‘Mother take me into your lap. I can’t take this anymore!!!’, till mother earth parted to gather her pain.

This was in spite of having the most revered person Sri Rama as her husband and it being a world of Truth (Satya Yug)!

If it is ball comes that comes back as pain and suffering (or joy and happiness) what ball did mother Sita throw?

She is referring, “Have a Ball of Love”: http://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/have-a-ball-of-love/ here.

Naran

The wonderful question!

Rama and Sita, yes they loved each other very intensely. Nothing can separate them. They had so much of trust in each other.

Then why did Rama deport Sita just for the sake of one dhobi (washer man) who questioned the chastity of Sita.

Is it because Ram also had the same doubt about Sita in him? No! It is a categorical no.

Rama’s love for Sita was so total and complete – we can also say they both represent the ideal husband wife relationship – that he could not have an iota of doubt at all.

Then why did he deport Sita to her utter dismay?

Rama was the one person who could understand the mass psychology better than anybody else.
Had he ignored the comment of the dhobi, thinking, “I know better? My Sita is beyond all this”, how many false stories would have been concocted, down the history tarnishing the image of Sita!

Because Ram did not want this to happen, he took the harsh decision against his own will.
For Rama, protecting Sita’s character was more important. Can anyone bear if his wife is blamed as characterless?

Think how tormented he would have been, before taking the decision.

Rama had total trust in her. He is happily bearing all the blames people have been inflicting on him, just for the sake of his love for Sita.

Sita’s name is more important for which he sacrificed his name, taking the blame on him. Rama’s action is the vindication of Divine love.

On the day of SRI RAMA NAVAMI (19-4-2013), let us have the blessing of the most Divine couple Sita and Rama SRI RAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM.

Final Note

Look at the plight of the lady who has asked me a question. How much torture she would have gone through, when her own husband writes badly about her, in social websites? 

Help for Marriage

Is available for free from Animal Spirit Guides: http://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/

Waiting for the divine time

If you feel, ‘So many years we are looking for a groom for my daughter, nothing seems to be happening’ then CUCKOO will give you the required patience to achieve your goal.

Refusing to marry

Lion helps in strong family ties and strong brotherhood. Those who say that “I don’t want to marry” this lion photo will help to get family ties.

Inviting the right partner

Write the name of the bride, draw a circle over it, and write the word CROW around it. She will invite the right partner.

When you are entering into partnership or marriage, to find out whether they are genuine or not, take the picture of crow with you.

When one seeks alliance for his daughter or son, so at that time the bride or bridegroom can keep a photo of WOLF with him/her while talking to each other, so that he/she can come to know the integrity of the other person. With Wolf you will only meet a person who is loyal to you. Disloyal persons will not come near you. Wolf will also make a person truthful.

Getting acceptance

If parents are not accepting the girl chosen by the son, the son can keep OCTOPUS while talking to his parents to make them flexible.

PELICAN: When a boy comes to see the girl for marriage keep the photo with the girl and she will be liked by the groom.

Before marriage

Before getting married, pray, “DRAGON FLY, please help me to find the truth about my would-be”.

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