Fear of Intimacy

Patient

I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:

“I release the part that ignores her”.

“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”

I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.

Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?

Naran

The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.

The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.

When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.

Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.

Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”

Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.

Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.

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I am a divorcee, want to marry again

Naran

The reason for the divorce is you were in a specific frequency and so you invited a person with whom you couldn’t leave.

Now, go and heal that person (you in the past) who got divorced. Send that person all the Reiki symbols; otherwise you will invite a similar person.

This is the case with the most of the divorces. Second marriages fail faster than first and the third faster than the second or may be worse than the previous marriage.

You could heal the cords between the previous partners too.

You are not the same person throughout your life. Every thought you think, every feeling or emotions you feel and the actions you take will change the frequency of you.

Therefore, you will invite different situations and different people, but similar to the past.

Also, heal the past of the person you are going to marry.

Heal the marriage of persons in their family.

Of course, heal the marriage of your parents as you instinctively follow their approach, may be of a different degree, but the content is the same.

Delay in Getting Married

Solution @ your fingertips Part I: Mudra Healing combined with Releasing techniques (RULE your KARMA) and Switch Words

Shamya

I have just come across your website. I am 28 now. My marriage is delayed. No good proposal coming. I am very much upset. Pls suggest a solution for me

Naran

1. Be in Chin Mudra and release all your present emotions and thoughts. Chant “I release my desire to get married”
2. Be in the Heart Mudra and say, “I release the unknown past memories that prevent me from getting married”
3. Be in the Vital Essence (Hara) Mudra and chant ” I release my resistance to marry and I love myself totally”
4. Be in the Vitality Mudra and chant” TOGETHER LOVE BE NOW”
5. Be in the Pushan Mudra and chant “THANKS. RELEASE RESISTANCE CHANGE NOW”

Please check out the following link to find the instructions to do the Mudras: http://healbymudra.wordpress.com/2013/02/07/instructions-for-solutions-your-fingertips/