Category Archives: Harmony
Became good friends with mother-in-law
Client
I want to tell you that myself and my mother-in-law became good friends after doing the forgiving exercises…
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Husband threatens to kill me
Sam
Joe told me that her husband has friends in Facebook and spends most of the time with them. He hardly finds time for her. If she questions him, he tries to beat her.
Joe once told me that her husband threatened to kill her with a knife. Knowing her husband, who is a friendly and Joe a nagging person, I didn’t take her statement seriously back then. May be it would have happened out of frustration from her husband’s side than trying to kill her.
So, I consulted Naran as this case is a complex one.
Naran
Ask her to do the following exercise. No remedies will work for her, unless she does it.
Ask her to affirm as many times as possible, “I release the part that ignores him. I align with that part that loves him deeply and totally”.
In fact, this exercise can be done by all couples.
Only person who can tolerate my wife
Naran
Husband thinks so. If you ask his wife, she will say that she is the only person who can tolerate her husband. I am talking about the couple I know here.
Both of them were consulting me for more than a year. They followed my instructions sincerely. Yet, the situation remained the same – they were continuing to fight with each other.
Then one day a miracle happened. The husband saw the blog I had earlier posted in WordPress: http://wp.me/ptUIO-2f.
He simply took the statement from the post – “I am not the doer. Divine is the doer”, as an affirmation and continued to chant it.
After few days of chanting his anger came down and felt his wife has born in this world for his sake, thanks to the divine, so that necessary healing can happen for him, and thereby his karma is nullified.
We might give remedies and healing techniques. Only divine decides which one will work. Divine’s way is too mysterious for us to comprehend in one lifetime!!!
Play happy
Madhu
How can we give up thinking about future as we see so many broken and unhappy marriages in my surroundings? So, this kind of fear comes.
Naran
When a thought comes, check the mind by saying, “If this thought gives me fear, why don’t I release this?”
“Can I release this?”
Just say “I let go this thought which gives me fear”.
You can also ask another question, “What thought gives me fearlessness?”
Come with as many thoughts as possible.
When a thought that gives you safety or trust appears, welcome it and release it.
It is a game! Play!!
Harmony packed for marriage
Roopa
My husband keeps complains that in this world, “Everyone hates me. I have no good friends, relatives. Because everyone tries to take advantage of me, I keep away from my relatives and friends”.
Also, my husband does not like me inviting anyone on the weekends, meet anyone outside and visit any of my relatives or friends house. He insults me and abuses me in front of others.
Knowing this some of my friends does not want to visit my house as they cannot take what my husband does to me. Literally, I have no one visiting my new house.
I do not know what to do. Can you suggest something?
Naran
Chant “BEECH, WILLOW, HOLLY, AGRIMONY, CHERRY PLUM”
Explanation
Beech, Willow, Holly, Agrimony, and Cherry Plum are Bach Flower Remedies. This is one of the combinations – HARMONY PACK, I suggest for finding harmony within one’s family.
Fault-finding: BEECH
Blaming others for one’s problems: WILLOW
Intense rage and suspicions’ about some members in the family: HOLLY
Seeking peace: AGRIMONY
Not to lose control: CHERRY PLUM
Go away from my life
Savi
As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.
You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.
So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.
But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.
Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.
He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.
He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.
I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.
He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.
I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).
Naran
It is quite surprising when you say you love him.
But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).
If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?
First give (it to him).
Give profusely from the heart.
Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.
You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.
If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.
What should I do to get harmony?
Go all out and give love.
What should I not do to get harmony?
Stop your blaming tendencies.
Stop the feeling that you are hurt.
It is important for you to be in love than to be right.
Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.
Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.
Change your heart first to change his heart.
Harmony Pack for Marriage
ROOPA
My husband keeps complains that in this world, “Everyone hates me. I have no good friends, relatives. Because everyone tries to take advantage of me, I keep away from my relatives and friends”.
Also, my husband does not like me inviting anyone on the weekends, meet anyone outside and visit any of my relatives or friends house.
Also he insults me and abuses me in front of others. Knowing this some of my friends does not want to visit my house as they cannot take what my husband does to me.
In addition, how will anybody visit my house without me going to their place or inviting them to my place?
Especially, this has increased after shifting over to the new house in the past 6 months.
Literally, I have no one visiting my new house. In fact, I cannot give Kumkum (Vermillion Powder) to any ladies also.
I do not know what to do. Can you suggest something?
Naran
Chant “BEECH, WILLOW, HOLLY, AGRIMONY, CHERRY PLUM”
Explanation
BEECH, WILLOW, HOLLY, AGRIMONY, and CHERRY PLUM are Bach Flower Remedies. This is one of the combinations I suggest for finding harmony within one’s family.
Fault-finding: BEECH
Blaming others for one’s problems: WILLOW
Intense rage and suspicions’ about some members in the family: HOLLY
Seeking peace: AGRIMONY
Not to lose control: CHERRY PLUM
Facing Ego Problems
SWAMI
I got married in 2010. There are some ego problems and misunderstanding between both families and now we are separated. She is saying that she will not come back.
Naran
Chant “WATER VIOLET, TOGETHER DIVINE”.
Explanation
Water Violet: is Bach Flower Remedy that will help us to appreciate our relationships by making us to shed our ego.
Together Divine: switch words for harmony