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Fear of Intimacy
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Patient
I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:
“I release the part that ignores her”.
“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”
I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.
Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?
Naran
The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.
The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.
When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.
Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.
Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”
Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.
Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.
This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.
Related Blogs:
Learn to manage your fears: http://wp.me/pwblL-3G
Fear manifests what we do not want: http://wp.me/ptUMq-3O
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Play happy
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Madhu
How can we give up thinking about future as we see so many broken and unhappy marriages in my surroundings? So, this kind of fear comes.
Naran
When a thought comes, check the mind by saying, “If this thought gives me fear, why don’t I release this?”
“Can I release this?”
Just say “I let go this thought which gives me fear”.
You can also ask another question, “What thought gives me fearlessness?”
Come with as many thoughts as possible.
When a thought that gives you safety or trust appears, welcome it and release it.
It is a game! Play!!
Husband said he will never come back, but he did
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Lalitha: I want to post this miracle for others to read.
Lalitha
I have been married for 12 years. We had a good life for 10 years and prospered very well with 3 beautiful kids.
16 months back we had been separated. Both the kids are with me. The separation is because of my husband loving another divorced lady. He is very happy without me and kids and enjoys life with her.
He has not divorced me yet. He does not see me at all and says he will never come back. I am in great agony because of this.
Naran
Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”
Lalitha
Will this chanting help for him and the lady free themselves from their entanglement? If so, is there any procedure to chant the words – time of the day, number of times, louder or silent?
Naran
Chant as many times as possible, anytime, anywhere, silently or loudly.
Do the forgiving exercise for the lady involved with your husband. For example, “I Lalitha forgive you…. (name of the person). You please forgive me and release me”.
This forgiveness statement which can be repeated mechanically, as many times as possible.
Lalitha
My husband’s sister just called to say that my husband is continuously trying to hint that he wants to marry his girlfriend. He is trying his best to convince his family members.
I am alone here with my 2 kids. Anything can be done to stop this Adharma (injustice)?
Naran
Whenever fear grips you, say “I release my fear …”
Whenever you feel angry, say “I release my anger. I release my desire to control or change anything or anybody”.
Rest of the time, chant “ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”
Lalitha
I was chanting the switch words and doing the forgiving exercise. I was also listening to your CDs – “WELCOME CHANGE” and “TOGETHER DIVINE”.
Miracle has just occurred.
My husband had never called me for the last 16 months.
He called me today and told me that he wants to get back to us.
Explanation
Together, Divine, Adjust, Change, and Now are switch words.
TOGETHER, DIVINE: is the basic mantra to fix disharmony in any kind of relationships. This is available in the form of a CD.
ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW: to adjust to the difficult circumstances and work towards changing it immediately.
FORGIVENESS MANTRA: Unless you forgive a person, nothing can be achieved. Please check out the links: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2011/08/01/how-and-why-we-need-to-forgive-others/ and http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/forgiveness-cd-instructions-and-benefits/
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SINGLE Most Advantage
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Naran
Marriage did not happen for you. To get married is your goal.
However, there has to be an advantage in being a single. That is the resistance for your marriage.
So affirm, ‘I release my desire to be alone and be unmarried’ as many times as possible.
Release your desire for approval in getting married.
Find if there is any fear. Release those fears.
Release the desire for security by getting married.
Then say ‘I release my resistance to get married’.
Marriage Mantri 