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Love lost in marriage

AR

It’s been only a few months I’ve been married but now my husband has started neglecting me. I do not feel as close as before. The little affectionate things and feelings have started disappearing from our couple life… please help!!!

Naran

  1. Chant “CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILLOW, BEECH, WALNUT, AQUAMARINE” for 100 times.
  2. Write the above names in a piece of paper and keep it under your pillow.

Explanation

CHICORY, GENTIAN, WILLOW, BEECH and WALNUT are Bach Flower Remedies.

Love lost: CHICORY and GENTIAN

Release blame, and resentment: WILLOW, BEECH and improve rapport: WALNUT

Develop affection: AQUAMARINE (gem remedy)

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Double Bubble

Sheryl

I wrote to you a month ago about my husband and his midlife crisis and thinking that he wanted a divorce. You suggested me to take the flower remedies AGRIMONY and CRAB APPLE, two pills each, three times a day, for a month and chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”.

I have done that and he is still at home, but I feel that he is still pushing me away. Also we have not had sex for 4 months. Is there a way to remedy this? I am feeling very lonely and angry and want our relationship to be healed.

Naran

Release all your anger against him.

Look at him as a mother and get what you want

Sheryl

Thank you for your help. I am wondering if it would be best to continue with the flower remedies and chant SW you recommended before or if there is something else that would be better to do now.

Naran

Chant “CANCEL CLEAR CONCEDE BE BUBBLE UP” also.

Explanation from Mind-Body Mystique Manual

BUBBLE: Expand

BE: At peace; clear loneliness; remain unaffected by outside occurrence

UP: Be confident; be in high spirits

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Raining clouds

ATEWHS

I am in a relationship since last five years. I really like him very much with many ups and downs and many adverse conditions. I have been his constant supporter.

He too loves me but we are not able to bring forward this relationship into marriage as he is stocked in his divorce case. He is married since last eight years and his wife left him as she does not want to get married and was forced by parents.

He is fighting for divorce but now she wants a large amount of money to give divorce. Due to all this things he gets demotivated and he thinks my life is being spoiled. He step backs at times.

I am really tired of this behavior and I feel bad when he steps back.

Please help me with some switch word or mantra so that we both get together and our problems get sorted out.

Naran

Chant “CLOUDS TOGETHER DIVINE NOW”

Explanation

Like clouds that bring rains (happiness), let your life be filled with love and prosperity.

Obstacles for wedding

Priyanka

I am getting married in November 2012. It is an arranged marriage and was fixed in Oct 2011.

Since the time the marriage was fixed, I and my fiancé’ faced a lot of obstacles (including obstacles from relatives etc.) and the dates were postponed twice.

I now want to ensure a happy married life. Although it is an arranged marriage, I want to ensure that I give my partner a lot of love, respect and affection.

Naran

I am very happy about the marriage. Congratulations and Best of luck for everything in life.

You are the only person who asked me “I want to give my partner a lot of love, respect and affection.”

My special prayers will be there for you and your husband.

As and when any obstacle comes, just say, “I submit this to the feet of Divine” and move ahead.

Don’t have any ill feeling towards anybody.

  • Thank the marriage day in advance.
  • Thank your parents, his parents and all those who are involved in performing this marriage.
  • Thank the marriage hall.
  • Thank the cook.
  • Thank the attendees.
  • Think and thank everyone who is involved in this marriage.
  • Chant “SWEET CHESTNUT, WALNUT, HORNBEAM, TOGETHER DIVINE ORDER”

Go away from my life

Savi

As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.

You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.

So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.

But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.

Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.

He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.

He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.

I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.

He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.

I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).

Naran

It is quite surprising when you say you love him.

But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).

If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?

First give (it to him).

Give profusely from the heart.

Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.

You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.

If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.

What should I do to get harmony?

Go all out and give love.

What should I not do to get harmony?

Stop your blaming tendencies.

Stop the feeling that you are hurt.

 It is important for you to be in love than to be right. 

Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.

Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.

Change your heart first to change his heart.

Good Spouse vs. Bad Spouse

Bad Spouse

Kavita

My husband has started defaming me on social networking sites now.Please let me know if I’ll ever be able to win back his lost love for me?

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise for him

Download a picture of Emerald and keep it under the pillow.

Chant AGRIMONY CRAB APPLE ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW

Good Spouse

D

At the end of a life of total sacrifice and devotion to her partner in dharma, didn’t mother Sita cry in anguish and say ‘Mother take me into your lap. I can’t take this anymore!!!’, till mother earth parted to gather her pain.

This was in spite of having the most revered person Sri Rama as her husband and it being a world of Truth (Satya Yug)!

If it is ball comes that comes back as pain and suffering (or joy and happiness) what ball did mother Sita throw?

She is referring, “Have a Ball of Love”: http://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/have-a-ball-of-love/ here.

Naran

The wonderful question!

Rama and Sita, yes they loved each other very intensely. Nothing can separate them. They had so much of trust in each other.

Then why did Rama deport Sita just for the sake of one dhobi (washer man) who questioned the chastity of Sita.

Is it because Ram also had the same doubt about Sita in him? No! It is a categorical no.

Rama’s love for Sita was so total and complete – we can also say they both represent the ideal husband wife relationship – that he could not have an iota of doubt at all.

Then why did he deport Sita to her utter dismay?

Rama was the one person who could understand the mass psychology better than anybody else.
Had he ignored the comment of the dhobi, thinking, “I know better? My Sita is beyond all this”, how many false stories would have been concocted, down the history tarnishing the image of Sita!

Because Ram did not want this to happen, he took the harsh decision against his own will.
For Rama, protecting Sita’s character was more important. Can anyone bear if his wife is blamed as characterless?

Think how tormented he would have been, before taking the decision.

Rama had total trust in her. He is happily bearing all the blames people have been inflicting on him, just for the sake of his love for Sita.

Sita’s name is more important for which he sacrificed his name, taking the blame on him. Rama’s action is the vindication of Divine love.

On the day of SRI RAMA NAVAMI (19-4-2013), let us have the blessing of the most Divine couple Sita and Rama SRI RAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM.

Final Note

Look at the plight of the lady who has asked me a question. How much torture she would have gone through, when her own husband writes badly about her, in social websites? 

Disharmony in Family and Marriage

Switch Words

WITH means is to be compatible with the opposite or concerned person.

Chant the switch words, “TOGETHER DIVINE WITH … (Name of the person)” when you want the other person to agree with you.

When you want a harmonious atmosphere chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. If you chant this switch word combination, the atmosphere will change beautifully.

Don’t bother about the names of the persons who need harmony. Just chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH.  Still it works beautifully.

At the subconscious level of the mind there is no ‘you’ and ‘me’. Everything is one. At the subconscious level there is no differentiation, all are one.

The difference is because of the body, and of the mind’s association with the body. That’s why we see the difference between each other

Bach Flower Remedies

Resolving the destructive tendencies – if relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:

  • AGRIMONY for open communication
  • BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
  • WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
  • WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
  • CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
  • HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
  • CHICORY to give and not to force one

Naran’s Products

From the introduction of Inner Smile CD: “We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends. A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs. A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life”.

Rule your Mind

How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life? Ask a simple question to yourself.

What do I want?

What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want.

What behavior of mine or my action will take me move towards this goal?

On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?

Disparity in Love

The Gem Remedy CORAL is for disparity in love.

A school teacher loved her own student.

They wanted to get married, irrespective of their difference in age.

Both of them took the pills of gem remedy Coral.

After a month they agreed to stop, as they realized that their mental compatibility is not good enough for the marriage to survive.

Delay in Getting Married

Solution @ your fingertips Part I: Mudra Healing combined with Releasing techniques (RULE your KARMA) and Switch Words

Shamya

I have just come across your website. I am 28 now. My marriage is delayed. No good proposal coming. I am very much upset. Pls suggest a solution for me

Naran

  1. Be in Chin Mudra and release all your present emotions and thoughts. Chant “I release my desire to get married”
  2. Be in the Heart Mudra and say, “I release the unknown past memories that prevent me from getting married”
  3. Be in the Vital Essence (Hara) Mudra and chant ” I release my resistance to marry and I love myself totally”
  4. Be in the Vitality Mudra and chant” TOGETHER LOVE BE NOW”
  5. Be in the Pushan Mudra and chant “THANKS. RELEASE RESISTANCE CHANGE NOW”

Please check out the following link to find the instructions to do the Mudras: http://healbymudra.wordpress.com/2013/02/07/instructions-for-solutions-your-fingertips/

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