Fear of Intimacy

Patient

I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:

“I release the part that ignores her”.

“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”

I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.

Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?

Naran

The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.

The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.

When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.

Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.

Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”

Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.

Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.

Related Blogs:

Learn to manage your fears: http://wp.me/pwblL-3G

Fear manifests what we do not want: http://wp.me/ptUMq-3O

Raining clouds

ATEWHS

I am in a relationship since last five years. I really like him very much with many ups and downs and many adverse conditions. I have been his constant supporter.

He too loves me but we are not able to bring forward this relationship into marriage as he is stocked in his divorce case. He is married since last eight years and his wife left him as she does not want to get married and was forced by parents.

He is fighting for divorce but now she wants a large amount of money to give divorce. Due to all this things he gets demotivated and he thinks my life is being spoiled. He step backs at times.

I am really tired of this behavior and I feel bad when he steps back.

Please help me with some switch word or mantra so that we both get together and our problems get sorted out.

Naran

Chant “CLOUDS TOGETHER DIVINE NOW”

Explanation

Like clouds that bring rains (happiness), let your life be filled with love and prosperity.

My husband never talks to me

Sasi

My husband never talks to me lot but talks to other girls and women.

When we go to function he shares all his works to other women which he has not told me. If I call him to any place he says no time, but spend time for his mom and his sisters.

I want my husband to respect me and share only to me.

Naran

Do you respect your husband?

Sasi

Yes I respect him, help him a lot and I tell all the things to him before he asks or others tell him.

But many a times I have come to know about him from others – business or family matters. Only if I ask him he will say. I feel hurt at that time.

He wants me to invite his brother and sis-in-law, but argues with me and starts a fight. But never ask them a word if they talk false of me.

Naran

Do the forgiving exercise.

Write TOGETHER DIVINE daily 100 times and 11 times with the left hand (if you are a right-hander)

Please check out this blog: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/i-deserve-respect/