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Fear of Intimacy
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Patient
I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:
“I release the part that ignores her”.
“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”
I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.
Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?
Naran
The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.
The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.
When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.
Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.
Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”
Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.
Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.
This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.
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Disharmony in Family and Marriage
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Switch Words
WITH means is to be compatible with the opposite or concerned person.
Chant the switch words, “TOGETHER DIVINE WITH … (Name of the person)” when you want the other person to agree with you.
When you want a harmonious atmosphere chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. If you chant this switch word combination, the atmosphere will change beautifully.
Don’t bother about the names of the persons who need harmony. Just chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. Still it works beautifully.
At the subconscious level of the mind there is no ‘you’ and ‘me’. Everything is one. At the subconscious level there is no differentiation, all are one.
The difference is because of the body, and of the mind’s association with the body. That’s why we see the difference between each other
Bach Flower Remedies
Resolving the destructive tendencies – if relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
Naran’s Products
From the introduction of Inner Smile CD: “We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends. A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs. A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life”.
Rule your Mind
How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life? Ask a simple question to yourself.
What do I want?
What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want.
What behavior of mine or my action will take me move towards this goal?
On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?
Posted in Family, Harmony, Married Life
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Delay in Getting Married
Posted by Naran S Balakumar
Solution @ your fingertips Part I: Mudra Healing combined with Releasing techniques (RULE your KARMA) and Switch Words
Shamya
I have just come across your website. I am 28 now. My marriage is delayed. No good proposal coming. I am very much upset. Pls suggest a solution for me
- Be in Chin Mudra and release all your present emotions and thoughts. Chant “I release my desire to get married”
- Be in the Heart Mudra and say, “I release the unknown past memories that prevent me from getting married”
- Be in the Vital Essence (Hara) Mudra and chant ” I release my resistance to marry and I love myself totally”
- Be in the Vitality Mudra and chant” TOGETHER LOVE BE NOW”
- Be in the Pushan Mudra and chant “THANKS. RELEASE RESISTANCE CHANGE NOW”
Please check out the following link to find the instructions to do the Mudras: http://healbymudra.wordpress.com/2013/02/07/instructions-for-solutions-your-fingertips/
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