Became good friends with mother-in-law

Client

I want to tell you that myself and my mother-in-law became good friends after doing the forgiving exercises…

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Praise Marriage

Naran

In continuation of the article on ‘Bring Praise Divine’: http://wp.me/ptUDX-6Y

Write daily 51 times:

“I release the part of me which is resisting to marry”

“I ALIGN with the part of me which opens to marry”

Chant “BRING PRAISE DIVINE” daily as many times as possible.

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Fear of Intimacy

Patient

I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:

“I release the part that ignores her”.

“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”

I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.

Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?

Naran

The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.

The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.

When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.

Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.

Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”

Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.

Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.

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Husband threatens to kill me

Sam

Joe told me that her husband has friends in Facebook and spends most of the time with them. He hardly finds time for her. If she questions him, he tries to beat her.

Joe once told me that her husband threatened to kill her with a knife. Knowing her husband, who is a friendly and Joe a nagging person, I didn’t take her statement seriously back then. May be it would have happened out of frustration from her husband’s side than trying to kill her.

So, I consulted Naran as this case is a complex one.

Naran

Ask her to do the following exercise. No remedies will work for her, unless she does it.

Ask her to affirm as many times as possible, “I release the part that ignores him. I align with that part that loves him deeply and totally”.

In fact, this exercise can be done by all couples.

Only person who can tolerate my wife

Naran

Husband thinks so. If you ask his wife, she will say that she is the only person who can tolerate her husband. I am talking about the couple I know here.

Both of them were consulting me for more than a year. They followed my instructions sincerely. Yet, the situation remained the same – they were continuing to fight with each other.

Then one day a miracle happened. The husband saw the blog I had earlier posted in WordPress: http://wp.me/ptUIO-2f.

He simply took the statement from the post – “I am not the doer. Divine is the doer”, as an affirmation and continued to chant it.

After few days of chanting his anger came down and felt his wife has born in this world for his sake, thanks to the divine, so that necessary healing can happen for him, and thereby his karma is nullified.

We might give remedies and healing techniques. Only divine decides which one will work. Divine’s way is too mysterious for us to comprehend in one lifetime!!!

Raining clouds

ATEWHS

I am in a relationship since last five years. I really like him very much with many ups and downs and many adverse conditions. I have been his constant supporter.

He too loves me but we are not able to bring forward this relationship into marriage as he is stocked in his divorce case. He is married since last eight years and his wife left him as she does not want to get married and was forced by parents.

He is fighting for divorce but now she wants a large amount of money to give divorce. Due to all this things he gets demotivated and he thinks my life is being spoiled. He step backs at times.

I am really tired of this behavior and I feel bad when he steps back.

Please help me with some switch word or mantra so that we both get together and our problems get sorted out.

Naran

Chant “CLOUDS TOGETHER DIVINE NOW”

Explanation

Like clouds that bring rains (happiness), let your life be filled with love and prosperity.

Go away from my life

Savi

As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.

You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.

So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.

But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.

Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.

He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.

He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.

I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.

He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.

I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).

Naran

It is quite surprising when you say you love him.

But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).

If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?

First give (it to him).

Give profusely from the heart.

Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.

You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.

If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.

What should I do to get harmony?

Go all out and give love.

What should I not do to get harmony?

Stop your blaming tendencies.

Stop the feeling that you are hurt.

 It is important for you to be in love than to be right. 

Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.

Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.

Change your heart first to change his heart.

Husband said he will never come back, but he did

Lalitha: I want to post this miracle for others to read. 

Lalitha

I have been married for 12 years. We had a good life for 10 years and prospered very well with 3 beautiful kids.

16 months back we had been separated. Both the kids are with me. The separation is because of my husband loving another divorced lady. He is very happy without me and kids and enjoys life with her.

He has not divorced me yet. He does not see me at all and says he will never come back. I am in great agony because of this.

Naran

Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”

Lalitha

Will this chanting help for him and the lady free themselves from their entanglement? If so, is there any procedure to chant the words – time of the day, number of times, louder or silent?

Naran

Chant as many times as possible, anytime, anywhere, silently or loudly.

Do the forgiving exercise for the lady involved with your husband. For example, “I Lalitha forgive you…. (name of the person). You please forgive me and release me”.

This forgiveness statement which can be repeated mechanically, as many times as possible.

Lalitha

My husband’s sister just called to say that my husband is continuously trying to hint that he wants to marry his girlfriend. He is trying his best to convince his family members.

I am alone here with my 2 kids. Anything can be done to stop this Adharma (injustice)?

Naran

Whenever fear grips you, say “I release my fear …”

Whenever you feel angry, say “I release my anger. I release my desire to control or change anything or anybody”.

Rest of the time, chant “ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”

Lalitha

I was chanting the switch words and doing the forgiving exercise. I was also listening to your CDs – “WELCOME CHANGE” and “TOGETHER DIVINE”.

Miracle has just occurred.

My husband had never called me for the last 16 months.

He called me today and told me that he wants to get back to us.

Explanation

Together, Divine, Adjust, Change, and Now are switch words.

TOGETHER, DIVINE: is the basic mantra to fix disharmony in any kind of relationships.  This is available in the form of a CD.

ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW:  to adjust to the difficult circumstances and work towards changing it immediately.

FORGIVENESS MANTRA:  Unless you forgive a person, nothing can be achieved.  Please check out the links:  http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2011/08/01/how-and-why-we-need-to-forgive-others/ and http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/forgiveness-cd-instructions-and-benefits/

Disharmony in Family and Marriage

Switch Words

WITH means is to be compatible with the opposite or concerned person.

Chant the switch words, “TOGETHER DIVINE WITH … (Name of the person)” when you want the other person to agree with you.

When you want a harmonious atmosphere chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. If you chant this switch word combination, the atmosphere will change beautifully.

Don’t bother about the names of the persons who need harmony. Just chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH.  Still it works beautifully.

At the subconscious level of the mind there is no ‘you’ and ‘me’. Everything is one. At the subconscious level there is no differentiation, all are one.

The difference is because of the body, and of the mind’s association with the body. That’s why we see the difference between each other

Bach Flower Remedies

Resolving the destructive tendencies – if relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:

• AGRIMONY for open communication
• BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
• WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
• WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
• CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
• HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
• CHICORY to give and not to force one

Naran’s Products

From the introduction of Inner Smile CD: “We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends. A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs. A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life”.

Rule your Mind

How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life? Ask a simple question to yourself.

What do I want?

What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want.

What behavior of mine or my action will take me move towards this goal?

On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?

Conflict Resolution

Blogs by Naran S Balakumar

Resolving Conflicts with Your Spouse: http://healbyswitchword.wordpress.com/2013/01/16/resolving-conflict-with-your-spouse/

Getting out of Troubled Waters: http://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/jelly-fish-for-troubled-water/

My husband threw me out: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2011/02/09/my-husband-drives-me-nuts/

I feel small, when he criticizes me: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/01/19/i-feel-small-when-he-criticizes-me-%e2%80%93-a-case-history/

Art of convincing your spouse and children: http://healbyanimalspirits.wordpress.com/2011/02/09/wolf-my-pal/