The reason for the divorce is you were in a specific frequency and so you invited a person with whom you couldn’t leave.
Now, go and heal that person (you in the past) who got divorced. Send that person all the Reiki symbols; otherwise you will invite a similar person.
This is the case with the most of the divorces. Second marriages fail faster than first and the third faster than the second or may be worse than the previous marriage.
You could heal the cords between the previous partners too.
You are not the same person throughout your life. Every thought you think, every feeling or emotions you feel and the actions you take will change the frequency of you.
Therefore, you will invite different situations and different people, but similar to the past.
Also, heal the past of the person you are going to marry.
Heal the marriage of persons in their family.
Of course, heal the marriage of your parents as you instinctively follow their approach, may be of a different degree, but the content is the same.
My husband keeps complains that in this world, “Everyone hates me. I have no good friends, relatives. Because everyone tries to take advantage of me, I keep away from my relatives and friends”.
Also, my husband does not like me inviting anyone on the weekends, meet anyone outside and visit any of my relatives or friends house. He insults me and abuses me in front of others.
Knowing this some of my friends does not want to visit my house as they cannot take what my husband does to me. Literally, I have no one visiting my new house.
I do not know what to do. Can you suggest something?
Chant “BEECH, WILLOW, HOLLY, AGRIMONY, CHERRY PLUM”
Beech, Willow, Holly, Agrimony, and Cherry Plum are Bach Flower Remedies. This is one of the combinations – HARMONY PACK, I suggest for finding harmony within one’s family.
Blaming others for one’s problems: WILLOW
Intense rage and suspicions’ about some members in the family: HOLLY
Seeking peace: AGRIMONY
Not to lose control: CHERRY PLUM
As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.
You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.
So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.
But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.
Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.
He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.
He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.
I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.
He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.
I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).
It is quite surprising when you say you love him.
But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).
If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?
First give (it to him).
Give profusely from the heart.
Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.
You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.
If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.
What should I do to get harmony?
Go all out and give love.
What should I not do to get harmony?
Stop your blaming tendencies.
Stop the feeling that you are hurt.
It is important for you to be in love than to be right.
Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.
Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.
Change your heart first to change his heart.
My husband never talks to me lot but talks to other girls and women.
When we go to function he shares all his works to other women which he has not told me. If I call him to any place he says no time, but spend time for his mom and his sisters.
I want my husband to respect me and share only to me.
Do you respect your husband?
Yes I respect him, help him a lot and I tell all the things to him before he asks or others tell him.
But many a times I have come to know about him from others – business or family matters. Only if I ask him he will say. I feel hurt at that time.
He wants me to invite his brother and sis-in-law, but argues with me and starts a fight. But never ask them a word if they talk false of me.
Do the forgiving exercise.
Write TOGETHER DIVINE daily 100 times and 11 times with the left hand (if you are a right-hander)
Please check out this blog: http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/i-deserve-respect/
WITH means is to be compatible with the opposite or concerned person.
Chant the switch words, “TOGETHER DIVINE WITH … (Name of the person)” when you want the other person to agree with you.
When you want a harmonious atmosphere chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. If you chant this switch word combination, the atmosphere will change beautifully.
Don’t bother about the names of the persons who need harmony. Just chant CLEAR TOGETHER DIVINE WITH. Still it works beautifully.
At the subconscious level of the mind there is no ‘you’ and ‘me’. Everything is one. At the subconscious level there is no differentiation, all are one.
The difference is because of the body, and of the mind’s association with the body. That’s why we see the difference between each other
Bach Flower Remedies
Resolving the destructive tendencies – if relationship is to be mended then take the following remedies:
- AGRIMONY for open communication
- BEECH to understand other’s point of view; to have tolerance
- WILLOW to stop blaming and to forgive
- WALNUT to adjust and to be compromising
- CHERRY PLUM not to burst out
- HOLLY for suspicion and back biting
- CHICORY to give and not to force one
From the introduction of Inner Smile CD: “We normally ignore our organs. We always take the body for granted. The day when we send our love, our smile to the organs, they become our friends. A friendly relationship with our organs is a must to maintain our harmony outside. If there is conflict or disharmony in others, become silent and send your love to your organs. A weekly listening of the CD will establish harmony in every aspect of our life”.
Rule your Mind
How to purchase the harmony I seek in my life? Ask a simple question to yourself.
What do I want?
What emotions or thoughts I need to have so that I can achieve what I want.
What behavior of mine or my action will take me move towards this goal?
On the other hand, what state of mind will take me away from my goal – my anger or forgiveness, my worry or my endurance (giving love in spite of not receiving), and my sadness or my fortitude?
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Waiting for the divine time
If you feel, ‘So many years we are looking for a groom for my daughter, nothing seems to be happening’ then CUCKOO will give you the required patience to achieve your goal.
Refusing to marry
Lion helps in strong family ties and strong brotherhood. Those who say that “I don’t want to marry” this lion photo will help to get family ties.
Inviting the right partner
Write the name of the bride, draw a circle over it, and write the word CROW around it. She will invite the right partner.
When you are entering into partnership or marriage, to find out whether they are genuine or not, take the picture of crow with you.
When one seeks alliance for his daughter or son, so at that time the bride or bridegroom can keep a photo of WOLF with him/her while talking to each other, so that he/she can come to know the integrity of the other person. With Wolf you will only meet a person who is loyal to you. Disloyal persons will not come near you. Wolf will also make a person truthful.
If parents are not accepting the girl chosen by the son, the son can keep OCTOPUS while talking to his parents to make them flexible.
PELICAN: When a boy comes to see the girl for marriage keep the photo with the girl and she will be liked by the groom.
Before getting married, pray, “DRAGON FLY, please help me to find the truth about my would-be”.
Blogs by Naran S Balakumar
Heal your Family Life: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2011/11/30/heal-your-family-life-through-gem-remedies/
Sometimes a ring is a hindrance in a marriage: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2010/02/16/sometimes-a-ring-is-a-hindrance-in-a-marriage/
When you break the Connection things get better: http://healbyreiki.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/healing-others-by-breaking-our-connection-to-them/
No news about our sister, who was married to a NRI: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/04/29/didn%e2%80%99t-hear-from-my-sister-in-dubai/
I am afraid my husband mayn’t approve of my decision: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/02/03/watch-out/