Sridhar applied for a divorce, though his wife put all breaks to it, as she will get more share in the property if she is not agreeing for the divorce as per Indian Law.
He took Ruby pills. Soon after, he found out that his wife has a secret relationship with her ex-boyfriend which she had revealed in her Orkut. This evidence helped him to get an easy divorce.
I am in a relationship since last five years. I really like him very much with many ups and downs and many adverse conditions. I have been his constant supporter.
He too loves me but we are not able to bring forward this relationship into marriage as he is stocked in his divorce case. He is married since last eight years and his wife left him as she does not want to get married and was forced by parents.
He is fighting for divorce but now she wants a large amount of money to give divorce. Due to all this things he gets demotivated and he thinks my life is being spoiled. He step backs at times.
I am really tired of this behavior and I feel bad when he steps back.
Please help me with some switch word or mantra so that we both get together and our problems get sorted out.
Chant “CLOUDS TOGETHER DIVINE NOW”
Like clouds that bring rains (happiness), let your life be filled with love and prosperity.
As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.
You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.
So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.
But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.
Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.
He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.
He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.
I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.
He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.
I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).
It is quite surprising when you say you love him.
But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).
If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?
First give (it to him).
Give profusely from the heart.
Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.
You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.
If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.
What should I do to get harmony?
Go all out and give love.
What should I not do to get harmony?
Stop your blaming tendencies.
Stop the feeling that you are hurt.
It is important for you to be in love than to be right.
Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.
Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.
Change your heart first to change his heart.
A girl was refusing to get married. Her parents attended a meeting organized at Raj Bhavan, Chennai.
In the booklet given to participants, they found the explanation for the switch word HOLD.
They chanted it for a while, imagining their daughter. In a few weeks’ time, she agreed to get married.
Hold: is for discipline (to hold one’s self from going in the wrong direction)
Marriage did not happen for you. To get married is your goal.
However, there has to be an advantage in being a single. That is the resistance for your marriage.
So affirm, ‘I release my desire to be alone and be unmarried’ as many times as possible.
Release your desire for approval in getting married.
Find if there is any fear. Release those fears.
Release the desire for security by getting married.
Then say ‘I release my resistance to get married’.
The Gem Remedy CORAL is for disparity in love.
A school teacher loved her own student.
They wanted to get married, irrespective of their difference in age.
Both of them took the pills of gem remedy Coral.
After a month they agreed to stop, as they realized that their mental compatibility is not good enough for the marriage to survive.
Blogs by Naran S Balakumar
Heal your Family Life: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2011/11/30/heal-your-family-life-through-gem-remedies/
Sometimes a ring is a hindrance in a marriage: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2010/02/16/sometimes-a-ring-is-a-hindrance-in-a-marriage/
When you break the Connection things get better: http://healbyreiki.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/healing-others-by-breaking-our-connection-to-them/
No news about our sister, who was married to a NRI: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/04/29/didn%e2%80%99t-hear-from-my-sister-in-dubai/
I am afraid my husband mayn’t approve of my decision: http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/02/03/watch-out/