Couldn’t get a divorce

Naran

Sridhar applied for a divorce, though his wife put all breaks to it, as she will get more share in the property if she is not agreeing for the divorce as per Indian Law.

He took Ruby pills. Soon after, he found out that his wife has a secret relationship with her ex-boyfriend which she had revealed in her Orkut. This evidence helped him to get an easy divorce.

Double Bubble

Sheryl

I wrote to you a month ago about my husband and his midlife crisis and thinking that he wanted a divorce. You suggested me to take the flower remedies AGRIMONY and CRAB APPLE, two pills each, three times a day, for a month and chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”.

I have done that and he is still at home, but I feel that he is still pushing me away. Also we have not had sex for 4 months. Is there a way to remedy this? I am feeling very lonely and angry and want our relationship to be healed.

Naran

Release all your anger against him.

Look at him as a mother and get what you want

Sheryl

Thank you for your help. I am wondering if it would be best to continue with the flower remedies and chant SW you recommended before or if there is something else that would be better to do now.

Naran

Chant “CANCEL CLEAR CONCEDE BE BUBBLE UP” also.

Explanation from Mind-Body Mystique Manual

BUBBLE: Expand

BE: At peace; clear loneliness; remain unaffected by outside occurrence

UP: Be confident; be in high spirits

Related Blogs

Feel Love in plenty: http://wp.me/ptUKY-3j

Gajendra Moksham: http://wp.me/ptUMq-w

Fear of Intimacy

Patient

I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:

“I release the part that ignores her”.

“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”

I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.

Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?

Naran

The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.

The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.

When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.

Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.

Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”

Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.

Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.

This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.

Related Blogs:

Learn to manage your fears: http://wp.me/pwblL-3G

Fear manifests what we do not want: http://wp.me/ptUMq-3O

Raining clouds

ATEWHS

I am in a relationship since last five years. I really like him very much with many ups and downs and many adverse conditions. I have been his constant supporter.

He too loves me but we are not able to bring forward this relationship into marriage as he is stocked in his divorce case. He is married since last eight years and his wife left him as she does not want to get married and was forced by parents.

He is fighting for divorce but now she wants a large amount of money to give divorce. Due to all this things he gets demotivated and he thinks my life is being spoiled. He step backs at times.

I am really tired of this behavior and I feel bad when he steps back.

Please help me with some switch word or mantra so that we both get together and our problems get sorted out.

Naran

Chant “CLOUDS TOGETHER DIVINE NOW”

Explanation

Like clouds that bring rains (happiness), let your life be filled with love and prosperity.

Go away from my life

Savi

As you said, I am chanting “TOGETHER DIVINE” and “REVERSE BOW CONCEDE”, but with no use. He just tells me to go away from his life. He always tells that.

You had asked me to analyze what is that in me that makes me quarrel with him. I was deeply hurt by him emotionally on more than 5 occasions that wounds have not healed at all.

So whenever he tells me something with kind of hatred, all those bad memories come back to me.

But the problem is not exactly that. He always tries to pick on something to create a dispute. Be it his fault or mine, it points towards me and each time he says that “I don’t need you, go away from my life”.

Due to recurring fights, now I have become numb towards all these.

He doesn’t allow me to go for work even though I have done my masters and currently doing my Ph.D. He doesn’t give me any money at all and I don’t need that too, I don’t ask for it.

He is a kind of “passive aggressive husband”. I don’t know why he is like this.

I love him a lot and I don’t want to leave him coz I think that he loves me too. I am really desperate to get out of this situation. I want peace and love in my family.

He is not talking and he does not have food from home – this is what he does when we have fights. But this time it’s been 3 weeks now.

I will be able to handle the future, coz if I remain calm then the fight would be lesser (actually I was doing this for the past 1 year).

Naran

It is quite surprising when you say you love him.

But you are not able to forget the wounds. As long as you nurse and nurture these emotional hurts, you can never have harmony (in marriage).

If you want to be with him and really love him why do you expect love from him?

First give (it to him).

Give profusely from the heart.

Find out why you love him. Find those qualities in him that makes you love him. Thank him for that.

You are writing this from your point of view. You have already decided that he is a passive aggressive husband.

If that is so, he cannot take initiative towards harmony. If you don’t bow or concede you can never have the life you want.

What should I do to get harmony?

Go all out and give love.

What should I not do to get harmony?

Stop your blaming tendencies.

Stop the feeling that you are hurt.

 It is important for you to be in love than to be right. 

Each day think about ways and means by which you can re-associate emotionally.

Your resistance (to love) is your enemy.

Change your heart first to change his heart.

Not willing to get married

A girl was refusing to get married.  Her parents attended a meeting organized at Raj Bhavan, Chennai.

In the booklet given to participants, they found the explanation for the switch word HOLD.

They chanted it for a while, imagining their daughter. In a few weeks’ time, she agreed to get married.

Hold: is for discipline (to hold one’s self from going in the wrong direction)

Husband said he will never come back, but he did

Lalitha: I want to post this miracle for others to read. 

Lalitha

I have been married for 12 years. We had a good life for 10 years and prospered very well with 3 beautiful kids.

16 months back we had been separated. Both the kids are with me. The separation is because of my husband loving another divorced lady. He is very happy without me and kids and enjoys life with her.

He has not divorced me yet. He does not see me at all and says he will never come back. I am in great agony because of this.

Naran

Chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”

Lalitha

Will this chanting help for him and the lady free themselves from their entanglement? If so, is there any procedure to chant the words – time of the day, number of times, louder or silent?

Naran

Chant as many times as possible, anytime, anywhere, silently or loudly.

Do the forgiving exercise for the lady involved with your husband. For example, “I Lalitha forgive you…. (name of the person). You please forgive me and release me”.

This forgiveness statement which can be repeated mechanically, as many times as possible.

Lalitha

My husband’s sister just called to say that my husband is continuously trying to hint that he wants to marry his girlfriend. He is trying his best to convince his family members.

I am alone here with my 2 kids. Anything can be done to stop this Adharma (injustice)?

Naran

Whenever fear grips you, say “I release my fear …”

Whenever you feel angry, say “I release my anger. I release my desire to control or change anything or anybody”.

Rest of the time, chant “ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW”

Lalitha

I was chanting the switch words and doing the forgiving exercise. I was also listening to your CDs – “WELCOME CHANGE” and “TOGETHER DIVINE”.

Miracle has just occurred.

My husband had never called me for the last 16 months.

He called me today and told me that he wants to get back to us.

Explanation

Together, Divine, Adjust, Change, and Now are switch words.

TOGETHER, DIVINE: is the basic mantra to fix disharmony in any kind of relationships.  This is available in the form of a CD.

ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW:  to adjust to the difficult circumstances and work towards changing it immediately.

FORGIVENESS MANTRA:  Unless you forgive a person, nothing can be achieved.  Please check out the links:  http://findlifeanswers.wordpress.com/2011/08/01/how-and-why-we-need-to-forgive-others/ and http://naranhealingproducts.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/forgiveness-cd-instructions-and-benefits/

SINGLE Most Advantage

Naran

Marriage did not happen for you. To get married is your goal.

However, there has to be an advantage in being a single. That is the resistance for your marriage.

So affirm, ‘I release my desire to be alone and be unmarried’ as many times as possible.

Release your desire for approval in getting married.

Find if there is any fear. Release those fears.

Release the desire for security by getting married.

Then say ‘I release my resistance to get married’.

Disparity in Love

The Gem Remedy CORAL is for disparity in love.

A school teacher loved her own student.

They wanted to get married, irrespective of their difference in age.

Both of them took the pills of gem remedy Coral.

After a month they agreed to stop, as they realized that their mental compatibility is not good enough for the marriage to survive.

Issues in Family

Blogs by Naran S Balakumar

Heal your Family Life: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2011/11/30/heal-your-family-life-through-gem-remedies/

Sometimes a ring is a hindrance in a marriage: http://healbygems.wordpress.com/2010/02/16/sometimes-a-ring-is-a-hindrance-in-a-marriage/

When you break the Connection things get better: http://healbyreiki.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/healing-others-by-breaking-our-connection-to-them/

No news about our sister, who was married to a NRI: http://healbymeditation.wordpress.com/2010/04/29/didn%e2%80%99t-hear-from-my-sister-in-dubai/

I am afraid my husband mayn’t approve of my decision:  http://healbyrule.wordpress.com/2010/02/03/watch-out/