I wrote to you a month ago about my husband and his midlife crisis and thinking that he wanted a divorce. You suggested me to take the flower remedies AGRIMONY and CRAB APPLE, two pills each, three times a day, for a month and chant “TOGETHER DIVINE”.
I have done that and he is still at home, but I feel that he is still pushing me away. Also we have not had sex for 4 months. Is there a way to remedy this? I am feeling very lonely and angry and want our relationship to be healed.
Release all your anger against him.
Look at him as a mother and get what you want
Thank you for your help. I am wondering if it would be best to continue with the flower remedies and chant SW you recommended before or if there is something else that would be better to do now.
Chant “CANCEL CLEAR CONCEDE BE BUBBLE UP” also.
Explanation from Mind-Body Mystique Manual
BE: At peace; clear loneliness; remain unaffected by outside occurrence
UP: Be confident; be in high spirits
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Gajendra Moksham: http://wp.me/ptUMq-w
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I was blindly chanting the affirmations for the last few days:
“I release the part that ignores her”.
“I align with that part that loves her deeply and totally”
I was surprised that I had been ignoring not only my wife, but in the past, my mother, my sister and my ex-girl-friend too. I think that’s why I had a break-up with my ex-girl-friend. I used to think she left me. Now, I realize I am the reason behind it.
Anyway, how do you know I was ignoring my wife?
The part that reacts to outside world (say, blaming others for your problems) is your outer-self.
The part that witnesses your outbursts is another self, which does the watching game and is the inner-self. Even when you react negatively, the inner-self is not worried. It keeps quiet.
When you keep releasing, you will go deeper and deeper and eventually you will touch the silent-self, which is beyond positive and negative.
Now, you have touched the silent-self for a little while. Because of that you have found out the truth that it’s your wife who’s reacting to you. So when you change, she will change too.
Now answering to your question, “How do you know I was ignoring my wife?”
Ignoring our loved ones shows we have a fear of intimacy – afraid to get closer to loved ones. Therefore, we use conflicts to get away from our loved ones, exhibiting our fear of intimacy.
Keep doing the affirmations for some more time, so that you will understand better and better how you are culprit behind your problems. In a way, this will stop your blaming (WILLOW) and make you take responsibility for your thoughts and actions.
This way, you will be empowered to take charge of your life.
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My husband has started defaming me on social networking sites now.Please let me know if I’ll ever be able to win back his lost love for me?
Do the forgiving exercise for him
Download a picture of Emerald and keep it under the pillow.
Chant AGRIMONY CRAB APPLE ADJUST TOGETHER CHANGE NOW
At the end of a life of total sacrifice and devotion to her partner in dharma, didn’t mother Sita cry in anguish and say ‘Mother take me into your lap. I can’t take this anymore!!!’, till mother earth parted to gather her pain.
This was in spite of having the most revered person Sri Rama as her husband and it being a world of Truth (Satya Yug)!
If it is ball comes that comes back as pain and suffering (or joy and happiness) what ball did mother Sita throw?
She is referring, “Have a Ball of Love”: http://togetherrelationship.wordpress.com/2013/04/15/have-a-ball-of-love/ here.
The wonderful question!
Rama and Sita, yes they loved each other very intensely. Nothing can separate them. They had so much of trust in each other.
Then why did Rama deport Sita just for the sake of one dhobi (washer man) who questioned the chastity of Sita.
Is it because Ram also had the same doubt about Sita in him? No! It is a categorical no.
Rama’s love for Sita was so total and complete – we can also say they both represent the ideal husband wife relationship – that he could not have an iota of doubt at all.
Then why did he deport Sita to her utter dismay?
Rama was the one person who could understand the mass psychology better than anybody else.
Had he ignored the comment of the dhobi, thinking, “I know better? My Sita is beyond all this”, how many false stories would have been concocted, down the history tarnishing the image of Sita!
Because Ram did not want this to happen, he took the harsh decision against his own will.
For Rama, protecting Sita’s character was more important. Can anyone bear if his wife is blamed as characterless?
Think how tormented he would have been, before taking the decision.
Rama had total trust in her. He is happily bearing all the blames people have been inflicting on him, just for the sake of his love for Sita.
Sita’s name is more important for which he sacrificed his name, taking the blame on him. Rama’s action is the vindication of Divine love.
On the day of SRI RAMA NAVAMI (19-4-2013), let us have the blessing of the most Divine couple Sita and Rama SRI RAM JAYA RAM JAYA JAYA RAM.
Look at the plight of the lady who has asked me a question. How much torture she would have gone through, when her own husband writes badly about her, in social websites?
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